Today I went to a party. Granted, I wasn’t looking my best. but the LAST thing anyone wants to hear is this phrase: “You look tired.” People, seriously…stop saying this. For one, if I was tired I’m sure I don’t need you to tell me how “tired” I look. For two, If I felt great, I felt like poo after that. No good can come from telling someone they look tired. For lasties, we all know it’s a nicer way of saying, “Hey, nice to see you. You look like crap.”
The next time someone tells me I look tired, I’m just going to tell them they look ugly. At least I can go to sleep and fix my problem.
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I’m Amanda Maguire and I have been “Married to a Youth Pastor” for almost 12 years now. We have 3 kids, Dylan (8) and Molly (6) and Scotty (3). I worked in full-time youth ministry for 4 years, got married and got a “real job”, allowing me to continue to be a volunteer in youth ministry for another 4 years. We started having kids and now I’m just married to the Youth Pastor. I have great friends and a fun life! I have a passion and a calling for wives just like me, married to a Youth Pastor.
I love to write.
I love to do creative activities.
I love to run.
I love to shop.
I love to dine out.
And I would love time to do any of these things more.
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Well spoken! Why don’t people think before they speak?!
ROFLMBO!!! Oh my gosh…. I about peed myself when I read this one… I’ll be sharing this entry with all of my friends… Thanks for the insight and for the laugh!
When I still had 8 weeks to go until I gave birth to our son last year, I had an alarming number of men in our church say, “Wow, you look like your ready to go any day now.” I would always respond, “Thanks! I still have 8 weeks to go.” I loved the sheepish expression they would get on their faces. What is it with men, and their inability to think before they speak?
So our Senior Pastor’s wife always tells me that I look tired…and I am thinkin I look pretty good. I get so irritated because I think people feel the need to always say something but don’t know what to say..so then they just say something stupid and inappropriate. Just say “Hi” and leave it at this if you don’t know what to say!
Hahaha. We have a family friend who never fails to tell me that I look tired, pale, dragged out, over-worked, whatever. I wondered what she would say when we saw her again last week, because I’ve been looking and feeling pretty good, if I do say so myself. I guess she thought so too because she wondered if I’d lost too much weight. !!!!!
You know, I don’t think when people say “you look tired” that they are neccesarily saying that you look like crap. Perhaps it’s your demeanor. Maybe you usually act more upbeat. I don’t know.
I also think in some cases it’s way of people trying to show concern for you, that they care. I guess there are still people who are jerks about it, but I don’t think most people are trying to be jerks.
Even if they are, people are human. It happens, everyone needs a little grace once in a while.
I just get so frustrated when people offer advice when I don’t ask for it. Just because my husband is the Youth Minister and we are in our mid twenties doesn’t mean I have no clue what I’m doing and I need help all the time. I know that it’s just the “SOUTH” and I guess they like to be nurturing, but come on…. I know I haven’t lived at home since I was 18 and I live 20 hours away from my Mom, but this doesn’t mean I want another mother.
I don’t know about you guys, but with two children, a full-time job, 30 teens and only 6 youth workers. I am always tired, regardless of how I look. My nutritionist says I am low on iron, but I know that’s not all of my problem.
Time for a retreat!! Unfortunately, there don’t seem to be many of them in New England.
Hum this one made me think. I says this on occasion to some of my close friends and they say it to me as well. It’s usually because we really are actually tired, and I always thought it was nice for one of my friends to notice how drained I’m feeling and show some concern and gives me a chance to talk about what’s going on that’s making me so tired. It would be a different story if it was someone I hardly knew. But that fact that it made you upset, will make me think about it more before I say this next time, because obviously not everyone finds it a show of concern, but rather a put down. The way it’s said probably goes a long way too. I’m sorry this happened to you
O I can’t edit my comment, It was supposed to be a sad face
not a happy one at the end!
This happens to me all the time. Finally, someone else who understands. Every time I walk into Church, someone tells me I look tired. My response – “Gee, thanks.” Then they get all concerned.
I know how you feel.