I Need Your Help!

Amanda on November 12th, 2008

Ladies,

You guys all know about the National Youth Workers Conference coming up at the end of February. I’m starting to put some stuff together, trying to gather my 2 thoughts. And I thought, Who better to ask than YOU!

  • What would you be looking for if you were to attend the Married to a Youth Pastor track?
  • What do you want to know?
  • What do you want to discuss?
  • Topics that hit home for you?

Just throw it out there ladies. This conference is for you too. I hope you all can come!

Thanks for you help.

Love,

Amanda

Discuss (9)

Ashley Christian at 6:47pm November 12

I am SO excited about going to this!!! I think for me how to balance being a volunteer in your husband’s ministry and being married to him. Because he talks so openly to me about his ministry, sometimes I give him advice when I really shouldn’t, ya know. How to be a good volunteer and a help mate as well.

I think just because of all the sad stories I’m sure we all hear in ministry circles about marriages falling apart in ministry, something about how to protect your marriage in ministry. Like don’t ever ever be alone with the opposite sex, even the other pastors at our church don’t follow this and it drives me crazy. Leave no opportunity for evil, have porn software on your computer, try not to counsel the opposite sex and if you do have guidelines, etc. Something I’ve seen come up a lot here is wives feeling guilty for wanting to spend time with their husbands, I think that should be addressed.

Maybe something about the role of a pastor’s wife in the church, the funny annoyances, things to watch out for, how to stay real while still staying a positive example.

Maybe your hubby could poll other youth pastors on what the best thing there wives could do for them in ministry, what they admire the most about their wives as it is specific to the ministry. Getting the guys voice in there could be very eye opening, and very encouraging.

Something about how to stay focused on God in a very busy life. How not to replace your walk with God with your ministry, cus they are not the same and I loss sight of this so much.

Fun and cheap date night ideas, we as ypw NEED those. Some ideas are start a babysitting co-op. We do this with 2 other couples, each month one couple hosts all the kids for 2 hours while the other 2 couples go out on a date. Something ridiculously fun we just got into is geocaching. The kids love it and it’s free (if you already have a gps or iphone) What about bowling, it’s still fun after all these years.

wow that was a lot! Hopefully something was usefully, again I can’t wait, we are SO SO SO excited to go to this and I looking forward to meeting you in person.

Amanda (but not the official one) at 5:01pm December 5

I think it would be good to sort of hash out “what’s normal.” Like it’s normal to struggle with things we’ve talked about on the blog… it’s normal to feel the feelings we’ve discussed. Sometimes it calms us to know other people experience these things… After all most of us have very little local support so many of us feel alone in these thoughts and feelings…And then encourage the women. Encourage them with how God is so tender-hearted to their struggles. How He understands and wants to fill in the gaps in our lives and the lives of our children… I think more than anything they will need a place to relax, feel understood, and walk away knowing God gets them and cares.