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Jeff recently has been traveling quite a bit. From conferences to camps. And this last trip just really threw me for a loop. It was a last minute trip that took him away for a week. I know its hard to be a single parent and away from our husbands for any period of time. But this trip I was really mad about. To put it bluntly, I was pissed. I couldn’t get excited for him to go, I couldn’t send him off well, and I couldn’t talk to him the entire time he was gone. He texted me and I responded a few times, but I even asked for him not to call because it was too hard to talk to him on the phone. I was obviously really emotional about him being gone. I had to really think about why it bothered me so much. And I figured it out!….
He didn’t INCLUDE me. Not that I wasn’t invited to go with him (I wasn’t, but I couldn’t have gone anyway. That didn’t hurt my feelings.), but most of the time I get a “say” in when trip and even camps happen. At least a discussion or notice about it. Jeff respectfully comes to me and we match up our calendars and I can have a “say” in some of his scheduling of events. Not all, and sometimes if I say “no” he needs to say “yes”, and we discuss each event that may take him away from me and the kids. But this trip was just decided without me and being last minute didn’t help either. I was actually told by another staff member that plane tickets had been purchased for this trip and the days and time they were leaving, not even my own husband bothered to tell me. (Husbands reading this… NOT GOOD).
So because I wasn’t able to process this trip it could only seem like a burden to me. I could find no joy in what this trip might mean for Jeff and his team. Such a bummer!
Ughhh, it was exhausting. exhausting to do it all alone, and exhausting to be that mad all week. It still amazes me after all these years of doing youth ministry together how we forget the simplest details that we have known forever!!
made my night. May have just inspired me to do some “work”!
I know how you feel! Sometimes, I get jealous of my husband because he gets to take off and go to all these places without me…. But, I have to remember why he does it and why I support him.