Let’s talk about it…

Amanda on April 4th, 2009

A post by Jennifer C.

I have a question for all of you and would love to hear what you married to youth pastor people think.

Do you ever feel like you should not have to be involved in every aspect of church life/ministry just because your spouse happens to be the youth pastor?

Many people support their spouse’s career without having direct involvement with every detail of their job.  I love what we do in ministry and am not burnt-out.  Sometimes I have a hard time saying no.

How do you handle saying no to things without seeming stand-offish or distant?  Do you ever feel guilty because you want to say no to church activities?

Thanks for any feedback you can give me.  God Bless you all!

Amy English at 10:56am April 4

I do not feel the pull to be involved in every aspect of the church! I am going to do what God has called me to do and given me a passion for. God has called other people to fill in those spots and if you are filling them out of obligation, other people cannot do what God has called them to do! You must do what God has given you a passion for and do it well. I know it is hard to say no, but I have learned to practice it and it is very freeing to say no and get the opportunity to explain what God has called me to do!!!

RC at 2:31pm April 17

I just realized that I have to start saying no to things. It’s impossible. Our church is small and it seems like the same group of people are the ones volunteering for EVERYTHING. And there are certain expectations because of the Associate/Youth Pastor thing. It’s hard, but people need to break out of their comfort zone and serve!