“Pastor’s Wives”

Amanda on May 13th, 2009

Post by Ashley Christian

Let’s talk about “the Senior Pastor’s Wife,”  or any other pastor’s wives at your church.  How are all you doing in your relationships with them?  Do you love them, having nothing but drama, not really know them?

I was so blessed to sit in a Q and A session with two amazing and experienced pastor’s wives, Kay Warren and Kathy Fields.  They talked about the importance of taking care of the staff wives, because if they are taken care of, they are less likely to feel territorial over their husband’s ministry when things get messy.  Unity serves everyone in the church.

So do you have that unity among pastor’s, elder’s, staff, or youth leader’s wives?  What does that look like for you?  I want to start meeting with our Pastor’s and Elder’s wives at our church but I’m not sure what direction to go in.  Certainly we don’t all need another small group, Bible study, or ministry since we are all so involved already.

If it were you, what would YOU want most out of time spent with these significant women’s in your husband’s ministry?  What would bless YOU the most and make you feel taken care of and supported?

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Erica at 6:05am May 14

I really enjoy all the pastor’s wives at our church. One thing we have done that I have really liked is to get together for brunch and to pray for one another every few months. That way it is not a huge time commitment, but we stay connected, and get a little break at the same time. Back when funds were better, the ministry wives would get to come on the vision casting retreat the pastors went on every year. We would shop all day while the men and women worked, and then we would have good time of fellowship in the evening. That doesn’t happen anymore :-)

soo at 11:14pm June 22

At our church, the youth group has 2 pastors even though everything is done pretty much altogether. My husband is the high school pastor and a lady is the junior high pastor. They switch off for Sunday sermons and Friday night Bible Studies. I feel tension with her b/c instead of being her friend, I categorize her as my husband’s co-worker. I do a lot of comparing b/c we both have 2 kids under the age of 3 and she seems to “get away” with doing less than my husband because of her mothering situation. I go to the “adult” service and am not involved much with my peers nor with the youth group. She preaches and does Bible studies but she is very very involved with the adults. I could go on and on but I think I already sound confusing. Basically, I do have a hard time connecting with pastor’s wives, or female pastors. I guess with most of the congregation b/c I’m with my 2.5 year old and 1.25 year old kids. Any thoughts anyone?