We’re new to our current church, and I feel SO blessed and relieved to be friends with the other youth pastor and his wife. We live close to each other so we can walk up to borrow things or they can bring their kids over if needed, etc. We walked over this Thursday evening to watch The Office together- so fun! But I sometimes think about how it would have been if we stayed at our old church, where the other yp’s wife was very closed-off and cold to me. I honestly think I would have given up, but I’m sure that would have translated into the ministry in some way… probably very subtly, but still- not healthy. Hopefully I would have read something like this and gotten back some of the passion to keep trying, but I don’t know; it was really discouraging and it became very easy to push it onto the back burner.

Right now with out senior pastor’s wife I feel like we get along well, participate in a lot of the same ministries, and have a similar sense of humor, but also like there is a “senior pastor’s wife wall” she puts up. I think my solution will be to invite her to a casual ladies’ get-together that the other yp’s wife and I coordinate that ranges in ages and seasons of life. It’s a place where we feel like we can be ourselves, and hopefully the SP’s wife would feel comfortable there, too. This post has given me the nudge I needed to talk to her about this. And also that we need to start planning our next evening out. Thank you!